For most of my life, I’ve been the type of person who would stress out over:
Perfectionism was my middle name and if I’m being honest, I was actually proud of my perfectionist traits. I kind of took pride in being good at being good (if that makes sense).
During my undergraduate and graduate programs, I would spend hours stressing over writing the perfect paragraph or a response to my professors. If it wasn’t perfect, it wasn’t good enough.
When I was playing basketball and softball in college, I was the person who showed up early, left late, and would overthink every aspect of what my coaches would say. I often put so much pressure on myself that I wasn’t nearly as good as I could be and my coaches would tell me to relax and stop overthinking...but I couldn't.
People throughout my life;⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Teachers, Friends, Family, Mentors, EVERY single one of them; have told me that I had a Type A personality and that I'm going to give myself a heart attack one day if I don't just chill out.
I would also wait until everything was 100% perfect before I started anything.
Meaning - For the past who knows how many years, I have had journals and journals full of courses I was going to create, things I had written, a PhD dissertation, business endeavors, and so much more that just went to waste.
Now I know that it’s not a waste, this material is still very much useful and valid in the work I do today. But in my mind, I needed to know all the fine details, that I was going to be okay, that it was going to work out before doing anything new.
I have had to learn to let it all go and just BE.
And truthfully, it’s not the easiest thing to do.
But here's the funny thing about control:
Whatever it is that you are trying to control,
ACTUALLY CONTROLS YOU.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Here I was trying to control every single part of my life when in actuality those things were controlling me...business, health, personal, my kids, the list goes on.
I spent way too much time and energy thinking about minor details, if someone would judge me, if I would look silly on a live video, if something I wrote would offend someone, if I put something out there that wasn't good enough. I was constantly thinking about the WHAT IF's.
Here's my tip for you:
Let today be FUN.
It's the start of a new week!
What if everything that you did today and the next didn't have to be stressful?
What if we looked at this week through a set of rose colored glasses?
Would it really be that bad?
Let go of how life is suppose to look like, and JUST HAVE FUN.