The Year of Saying no

Updated: Sep 3, 2018


I know that I am a bit late to the New Year conversation, but hey, it's still January, so we are okay!


For this post I spent a lot of time thinking about what my true goals are this year. Not just another "resolution" that will come and go, but something truly impactful and meaningful.


I am a huge believer in vision boards, setting goals and continually tracking my progress to assure that I am on track to achieving my dreams. But something I have found that I have not done a good job of in the past is saying no.


Now you may be asking, "how does saying no help you achieve your goals?"


Over the years I have said yes to so many people, things and projects simply because I felt I had to. No, I was not passionate. No, my heart was not always in it. And to be honest, I didn't always want to say yes, but still I did.


Why? I truly had good intentions. I wanted to help and contribute. I didn't want to let people down by avoiding the opportunity to join them. I always felt that leaving a legacy meant giving of your time, energy and effort.


But guess what else happened the more I said yes? I became stressed out, over committed, and angry. I didn't have enough time to do the things that I was passionate about and I felt like I was going a million miles a minute and never had enough time.


I took some time off of work in December 2017 for a much needed vacation. Yes, I finally used my vacation days!


I went to the gym every day.

I read books and played games with my kids.

I watched movies and had fun outings with my family.

I cooked dinners at home and tried new recipes.

I went to the mountains and found appreciation again in the beauty of nature.


I felt relaxed.

I felt happy.

I felt like my old self.


Now don't get me wrong, I love the opportunity to help when and where I can. But as I become another year older - and wiser, I suppose - I realize that you have to put yourself first.


Self-care is critical. It's a non-negotiable and you have to find how to best balance work, family, business, health, and all outside obligations. And for me that means I have to start saying no to the things that don't really matter in the long run. For me those things that truly matter are my mental health and my family. Period.


Perhaps this seems like a simple resolution - or no resolution at all. But if you are still out there saying, "I don't do resolutions" I encourage you to not set a resolution for the sake of doing it because everyone else is, but do it because you are committed to creating your best life.


Resolutions don't have to always be weight loss or fitness related. In a time where people are suffering from being overworked, stressed and lacking happiness, choose something simple such as eliminating the things that make your life more chaotic.


Make 2018 the year of happiness, love, kindness and being your personal best.


Love, Becky


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