I've always been a bit of a people watcher, or maybe I should say, observer. It sounds less creepy. I watch people. I often quietly listen to the things they say. I think about their behaviors. Listen. Reflect on the things that they say and do. I am very aware of how people act towards others. I notice when someone stops reaching out, communicating, making a choice to be present in another's life. At this point you're likely wondering what the first paragraph has to do with... well, anything, really. And two, you're probably saying, "who cares?!?" So, hear me out.... Please. ;-) One of the things I've watched over the past few months is women (and men, too) act in a way that disappointed me. Now I know, when someone says they are disappointed, it feels like a mother reprimanding their child. I'm sorry if that's the vision you have in your head (a mom pointing her finger at a child slumping in the corner). In this case, though, it's true. I am really disappointed. In a lot of people. Let me give you just a tiny bit of a backstory. In addition to my professional career, I've adopted the "side hustle" or "YouEconomy" movement in which I've built a business from home by sharing a brand I love (and use!). For me there are many benefits to building a #WorkFromAnywhere job that I love. Obviously, there is the financial benefits, but also, the freedom to work from my phone while I travel, build a lifelong residual income, and the investment in personal growth and development to be my best self. I really love the industry and love the people it has brought into my life. Which leads me to the point of this blog post....
I watched quietly and observed people bad-mouthing a company that just weeks before they were promoting, sharing obsessively and claiming they loved. This behavior alone made me question their authenticity and whether they truly loved the business or if they were just along for the ride to get as many customers and promoters as possible in order to make a buck.
Here's where it got worse. As people left Company A and moved to Company B, people on both sides of the aisle were bullying on social media, participating in gossip, creating Facebook Live videos to attack other reps (who were formerly their teammates, or at least, colleagues in the business). I was shocked and honestly, quite surprised at some of the behaviors. It felt like a bad case of Mean Girls x 100.
I've never been the fastest growing promoter in my "side-hustle" so maybe some reading this will judge and say, "who does she think she is to tell us how to act?". But I've been in the real-world and the corporate world for a very long time. I've learned to put my ego aside, but as someone who has worked her way up in the corporate ladder and leads a successful team of employees in what I like to dub, "my real career", I couldn't help but think that some of these people need to sit down and stop with all the bashing, name-calling and immature behavior. They were behaviors that in any other work environment would lead these individuals to lose their career. It's time to stop being middle-aged bullies. Yep. I just said it. Stop being mean, judgmental, hateful and a gossip about others. It makes you look bad. It makes the industry look bad. When people gossip and talk bad about others it does nothing but make your insecurities shine. And trust me, I want to shine and stand out, but I want to do so because of the great things I'm doing and the contributions I'm making. Not because I'm a jealous, angry, mean person. Perhaps this is where I differ from some people in the "side-hustle" industry. I'll never say anything bad about a person who chooses to leave a company. I'll never let myself engage in the drama and toxic environment, with exception of this blog post, which is more of an observation and piece on how we can decrease the behaviors we're seeing in the industry. I'll never stop liking someone because they chose a different avenue or vehicle for their business endeavors. It AMAZES me how many people stop "liking", commenting or engaging with people simple because they chose to do what is best for them. Honestly, at the root of most decisions anyone makes, it almost always comes down to their family, passion, and needs. When I think about the choices people make whether it is personal or in business, I immediately think of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...isn't that the foundation for human motivation? If you are one of those people who has engaged in gossip, negative, hurtful behaviors, I don't judge you. I only ask that you remember that all people are struggling, figuring out where they fit in this world, trying to make the choices that are best for them (or their family), and want what is best for those they love. Anytime someone makes a choice that isn't the norm, isn't accepted by their peers, or rebels against the popular choice, they are showing bravery and vulnerability. We should never judge an individual who possesses the super power of saying "yes" when everyone around them is saying "no". We should never judge an individual who invested in their growth so deeply that they can now make choices that do not always align with those in their circle. We must certainly never judge someone for leaving a company because they've decided there is something that better suites their needs financially, personally, and professionally. It's always interesting to me that network marketing/mlm/social retail/direct sales (whatever you title it) reps feel like they can't make changes. Do you know how many changes people make to their careers over their lifetime (12-15, according to Linkedin). Why is it when someone wants new challenges and opportunities in their network marketing company they are seen as a horrible person? Bottom line, friends, people before profits. People before companies. People first. When we can remember that, we'll all find success in whatever company or endeavor we pursue. After all, there's plenty of room at the table for everyone to eat.